Success Is The Best Revenge

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In life, things won’t always go your way.

You’re going to be disappointed.

You’re going to get rejected.

You’re going to fail.

You’re going to get screwed over.

You’re going to get passed over for that promotion.

I could go on and on.

In the moment, experiencing these types of negative outcomes feels like the worst thing in the world.

Some of the first thoughts that probably go through your head are “What can I do to get back at X?” or “How can I make X feel just like this? Or worse?” We’ve all been there.

As much as you would like to retaliate, you shouldn’t. You’re better than that. Why stoop to their level?

Allow yourself to experience whatever emotion X caused you to feel for as long as you want. You are human after all.

When you get that out of your system, it’s time to change your perception of the event and take the high ground. Just like the stoic philosophers preached, you may not be able to control what happens to you, but you can control how you respond to it.

You can start by reflecting on the experience and asking yourself what you can learn from it. Maybe you could have done things differently or better.

Then, try to think about how you can best move forward. Formulate a plan that will allow you to succeed like you never have before. Commit to bettering yourself and don’t stop until you get what you want. Show X what you’re made of, and let your actions speak for themselves.

In the end, it’s not about throwing “I told you so” back in X’s face when the time comes. It’s about being a person of character, turning obstacles into opportunities, and reaching new heights. That’s the sweetest revenge of all.

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How to Start a Tribe

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1. Pick a passion you want to explore further (X).

What’s something you love and wish you could connect with others on a deeper level about?

2. Seek out people who are also interested in X.

Start with your closest friends and branch outward (e.g. friends, acquaintances, people you know on social media, etc.).

3. Talk to them about X.

Ask questions, listen, share opinions and recommendations. In person is better if others are local, but digital conversations will be more convenient.

4.  Continue talking to them about X.

It could be every day, once a week, etc. Agree to some sort of cadence.

5. Recruit new people who might be interested in X.

Ask the people you’ve been connecting with if they know anyone who shares X passion. Continue to seek out people online and locally.

6. Keep going.

You can make your tribe as small or big as you want it to be. What’s important is that you step up and be the leader others are looking for.

What tribe are you interested in creating?

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